Top-notch reasons for not marrying a big city lawyer!!!

Back when I practiced law in New York City, I was a different person. I was involved in a number of different relationships over the course of those several years, none of which seemed to work. And I take full responsibility for that. I was, after all, a big city lawyer. Here are five reasons not to marry a big city lawyer.

One. Most big city lawyers see everyone as an adversary. Other lawyers, judges, clients, even their spouse. When you work all day everyday fighting against others, it becomes instinct. You find yourself arguing over just about everything, from the best sitcom on television to what you should eat for dinner.

Two. Big city lawyers seldom lose arguments. Even if you don’t mind arguing with your spouse on a regular basis, you surely do not want to lose every fight. But if you marry a big city lawyer, you could very well find yourself doing just that. Losing arguments regularly can be awfully frustrating and you may find yourself resenting your decision to marry that big city lawyer.

Three.  Soni Law Firm: Employment Lawyer is taking their job seriously. Professional job is regarded superior then the personal life of the layers. There is no limit on the hours of working in the firm.  Big city lawyers work long hours. In fact, most are never really off the job. I found myself mulling over cases during dinner dates, even at the movies. You don’t want a spouse who is going to have his or her head back at the law office day in and day out. Even when a big city lawyer makes himself available, he may not be fully there.

Four. Big city lawyers become cynical. A cynic is a person who believes that people always act from selfish motives. I went into the law as an idealist and after a couple years of practicing, I realized I had become a full-fledged cynic. I did not trust anyone’s motives, including significant others’. Anyone who knows a cynic, knows that they can be difficult to be around.

Five. Big city lawyers have a lot of bad days. In the years I practiced law in New York City, I can probably count the number of good days I had on one hand. Things just constantly go wrong in the courtroom, go wrong in the office. The law is terribly unpredictable, and anything that could go awry usually does. Add to that all the awful people big city lawyers have to deal with on a regular basis, and you may find the man or woman you married, the big city lawyer, coming home with a scowl on their face more often than not.

If you simply must marry a big city lawyer, be sure you know them well before tying the knot. And make sure you agree beforehand as to just what type role the law will be playing in each of your lives. The law can be a jealous mistress indeed.


Paola Garcia lives in Jakarta Indonesia. She is an associate professor in University of Indonesia and also managing Scoopinion at the same time. She is also fond of watching theatrical plays.

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